Pretty Woman

In my previous post I have mention several reasons regarding the type of woman I am searching for and I could list a number of items that further complicate my own personal search for that special woman.

I would rather take a more positive approach, therefore, I've composed a description of my dream lady and placed it on this page.

Hopefully, you wouldn't mind me using the title, "Pretty Woman" as a lead into my personal preferences regarding the lady for whom I seek....

My Pretty Woman is a Real Person...

One woman I dated was absolutely gorgeous. However, she decided after our fourth date that I was not her "equal." Her reaction was a result of a conversation we had concerning her assumption that I was going to travel throughout various foreign countries with her and pay everything each time. When I told her this would not be the case, she dumped me.

She was a beautiful woman but it became obvious to me that her view of men had more to do with their financial status than their hearts and souls. Upon hearing of this experience, a dear friend of mine advised me to "...find a real, genuine down-to-earth-woman and you'll be much happier."

Being pretty begins in the heart and works it's way out. There is much to be said about character, integrity, and being a real person. If I were to prioritise those characteristics that would be most important to me, this one would be at the top of the list.

My Pretty Woman is Genuine...

Several of the women I have dated were very clear in declaring their belief that they, too, were romantics. However, I soon learned that what they really meant was, "I love to be romanced but have no intention of reciprocating."

As a romantic, I do not expect reciprocation. I'd much rather she be honest with me and simply appreciate the fact that she has a true romantic for a partner. Rather than telling a man what one might think he wants to hear, being truthful is much more important. I firmly believe that the reason most new relationships do not survive the first three months is because someone was not honest from the very beginning.

Truth has a way of working itself to the surface no matter what we do to keep it submerged.

My Pretty Woman is Attractive & Feminine...

No woman will ever change the fact that men are visual creatures. It simply will never happen. However, men are varied in their preferences regarding whatever mental image they have of a visually attractive female.

Some like them slender and some like their women to be on the large side. One man is turned on by small narrow-faced women with big eyes while the man next to him loves a woman who is exotic looking.

However, just as men who allow themselves to get out of shape and do not keep themselves up cannot expect to attract women, a woman who does not take care of herself should not blame all males because they don't get invitations to date.

As for me, I prefer women who enjoy their femininity. A lady who enjoys dressing up in a nice dress to go out for dinner but can just as easily throw on a pair of jeans for a day at the seaside or an amusement park will get my attention every time.

A little makeup, a feminine hairstyle, a few curves in the right places and nice legs, are definitely my preference.

My Pretty Woman is a Communicator...

Any marriage counsellor will tell you that one of the main reasons why couples break up is their inability to communicate well with each other. Regardless of whether or not a conversation might be about shared personal issues, what's happening at work, mutual interests, or the state of world affairs, couples need to find time to talk with each other.

I am not one to look for the television remote control as I am at home most of the day working with my computer and listen to music and news through the internet.

It's more important that I put her first and share a few moments together so I always shut and will continue to shut down my computer by 6 pm. If that means sitting down to cuddle on the sofa and just sharing whatever is on our mind, then so be it. It's called "communication" and it is indeed the glue that keeps the "relate" in relationships.

Talk to me, Pretty Woman.

My Pretty Woman is Personable...

Laugh with me. Smile with me. Play with me. Let's have fun!

There will be plenty of times when life will demand that we handle situations responsibly and deal with serious issues. In the meantime, let's enjoy each other to the fullest. Second marriages are just as much about healing from the past as they are finding a new love and a new life. However, poisoning a new relationship by not dealing with the bitterness stemming from any previous relationships only serves to put a damper on what should be the happiest time of your life.

Let's go dancing on the weekend. Let's take the car and whiz down to the seaside like a couple of teenagers. Let's wrestle on the sofa and don't you dare accuse me of letting you win just so that you can have your way with me. Life is too short to endure having to live with someone whose mouth corners are locked in one position.

Smile with me.

My Pretty Woman Enjoys Intimacy...

Am I supposed to play down the fact that I am a sexual being?

I won't do it. Neither will I apologise for being a sexually driven male nor will I victimise any unsuspecting woman by using manipulation or guile to get her into bed with me.

I fully realise that anyone can have sex but true intimacy is the shared experience of two people who genuinely care about each other. One night stands are acceptable in certain circumstances but not as a norm. Maybe it's because I value the feelings of others. Maybe it's because I enjoy knowing that the person I am with is loved and loves me, too. Maybe it's because I am a true romantic. At any rate, it's essential for me to have a real relationship with my pretty woman to enjoy intimacy with her.

You see, the actual sexual act lasts about 15 minutes, 30 if you are lucky. On the other hand, intimacy lasts for hours and usually, a lifetime.

"Romance is all the little kisses in between."

It's treating each other right previous to undressing each other and until the next time we get in between the sheets together.

My Pretty Woman Walks With Me...

With half of our generation's marriages ending up in divorce, as did mine, it becomes essential for two people to grasp tightly onto each other's hand and never let go.

Please don't walk on. Please don't walk away. Walk with me.

I don't want to walk ahead of you nor do I expect you to walk behind me. Let's walk side by side--together.

We are not going to agree on everything. Deciding where we will agree to disagree is the stuff of a real relationship. Agreeing on the essentials provides the foundation for a solid, loving, caring experience together.

Working through each day knowing that her greatest joy is to find me afterwards to continue our walk together is my idea of a Pretty Woman.