Pretty Woman

In my previous post I have mention several reasons regarding the type of woman I am searching for and I could list a number of items that further complicate my own personal search for that special woman.

I would rather take a more positive approach, therefore, I've composed a description of my dream lady and placed it on this page.

Hopefully, you wouldn't mind me using the title, "Pretty Woman" as a lead into my personal preferences regarding the lady for whom I seek....

My Pretty Woman is a Real Person...

One woman I dated was absolutely gorgeous. However, she decided after our fourth date that I was not her "equal." Her reaction was a result of a conversation we had concerning her assumption that I was going to travel throughout various foreign countries with her and pay everything each time. When I told her this would not be the case, she dumped me.

She was a beautiful woman but it became obvious to me that her view of men had more to do with their financial status than their hearts and souls. Upon hearing of this experience, a dear friend of mine advised me to "...find a real, genuine down-to-earth-woman and you'll be much happier."

Being pretty begins in the heart and works it's way out. There is much to be said about character, integrity, and being a real person. If I were to prioritise those characteristics that would be most important to me, this one would be at the top of the list.

My Pretty Woman is Genuine...

Several of the women I have dated were very clear in declaring their belief that they, too, were romantics. However, I soon learned that what they really meant was, "I love to be romanced but have no intention of reciprocating."

As a romantic, I do not expect reciprocation. I'd much rather she be honest with me and simply appreciate the fact that she has a true romantic for a partner. Rather than telling a man what one might think he wants to hear, being truthful is much more important. I firmly believe that the reason most new relationships do not survive the first three months is because someone was not honest from the very beginning.

Truth has a way of working itself to the surface no matter what we do to keep it submerged.

My Pretty Woman is Attractive & Feminine...

No woman will ever change the fact that men are visual creatures. It simply will never happen. However, men are varied in their preferences regarding whatever mental image they have of a visually attractive female.

Some like them slender and some like their women to be on the large side. One man is turned on by small narrow-faced women with big eyes while the man next to him loves a woman who is exotic looking.

However, just as men who allow themselves to get out of shape and do not keep themselves up cannot expect to attract women, a woman who does not take care of herself should not blame all males because they don't get invitations to date.

As for me, I prefer women who enjoy their femininity. A lady who enjoys dressing up in a nice dress to go out for dinner but can just as easily throw on a pair of jeans for a day at the seaside or an amusement park will get my attention every time.

A little makeup, a feminine hairstyle, a few curves in the right places and nice legs, are definitely my preference.

My Pretty Woman is a Communicator...

Any marriage counsellor will tell you that one of the main reasons why couples break up is their inability to communicate well with each other. Regardless of whether or not a conversation might be about shared personal issues, what's happening at work, mutual interests, or the state of world affairs, couples need to find time to talk with each other.

I am not one to look for the television remote control as I am at home most of the day working with my computer and listen to music and news through the internet.

It's more important that I put her first and share a few moments together so I always shut and will continue to shut down my computer by 6 pm. If that means sitting down to cuddle on the sofa and just sharing whatever is on our mind, then so be it. It's called "communication" and it is indeed the glue that keeps the "relate" in relationships.

Talk to me, Pretty Woman.

My Pretty Woman is Personable...

Laugh with me. Smile with me. Play with me. Let's have fun!

There will be plenty of times when life will demand that we handle situations responsibly and deal with serious issues. In the meantime, let's enjoy each other to the fullest. Second marriages are just as much about healing from the past as they are finding a new love and a new life. However, poisoning a new relationship by not dealing with the bitterness stemming from any previous relationships only serves to put a damper on what should be the happiest time of your life.

Let's go dancing on the weekend. Let's take the car and whiz down to the seaside like a couple of teenagers. Let's wrestle on the sofa and don't you dare accuse me of letting you win just so that you can have your way with me. Life is too short to endure having to live with someone whose mouth corners are locked in one position.

Smile with me.

My Pretty Woman Enjoys Intimacy...

Am I supposed to play down the fact that I am a sexual being?

I won't do it. Neither will I apologise for being a sexually driven male nor will I victimise any unsuspecting woman by using manipulation or guile to get her into bed with me.

I fully realise that anyone can have sex but true intimacy is the shared experience of two people who genuinely care about each other. One night stands are acceptable in certain circumstances but not as a norm. Maybe it's because I value the feelings of others. Maybe it's because I enjoy knowing that the person I am with is loved and loves me, too. Maybe it's because I am a true romantic. At any rate, it's essential for me to have a real relationship with my pretty woman to enjoy intimacy with her.

You see, the actual sexual act lasts about 15 minutes, 30 if you are lucky. On the other hand, intimacy lasts for hours and usually, a lifetime.

"Romance is all the little kisses in between."

It's treating each other right previous to undressing each other and until the next time we get in between the sheets together.

My Pretty Woman Walks With Me...

With half of our generation's marriages ending up in divorce, as did mine, it becomes essential for two people to grasp tightly onto each other's hand and never let go.

Please don't walk on. Please don't walk away. Walk with me.

I don't want to walk ahead of you nor do I expect you to walk behind me. Let's walk side by side--together.

We are not going to agree on everything. Deciding where we will agree to disagree is the stuff of a real relationship. Agreeing on the essentials provides the foundation for a solid, loving, caring experience together.

Working through each day knowing that her greatest joy is to find me afterwards to continue our walk together is my idea of a Pretty Woman.

Reasons for my blogg

Today is Valentines Day and poor me I only received one card from my, female, best friend H and a couple of e-cards. Either the postman forgot my door or Eros missed me completely. For whatever reason, here I am, on my own, getting to grips with this new form of publication and contemplating where to start. My writing skills are very poor but if this new toy keeps my brain occupied then is worth the effort.

Being divorced and single is not my preference. At 60 years of age, I remain hopeful that a pretty woman will one day cross my path, zing my heart, and accept an invitation from me for a romantic walk together that will last the rest of our lives.

However, my experience has given me cause for some concern. I've dated several women close to my age, but find that most of them are still bitter as a result of their marital break ups, and are resistant regarding any commitment to either an exclusive or permanent relationship.

Conversely, younger women are much more willing to commit to a long-term relationship. However, most of them are still raising children. Older men, like me, may not be up to walking a child through his/her teens. In my case, I've done that twice as a father and once as a stepfather and I wouldn't personally enjoy being a stepfather again.

I believe, and am told, that I am a strong and independent person, yet very caring, considerate, loyal, intelligent, and always striving to learn. I take responsibilities seriously, but love impulsiveness, fun and surprises.

I like classical, Greek and easy listening music. Also enjoy other types of music, especially from the Seventies and eighties but I hate Pop and techno. I enjoy reading books, surfing the Internet, web designing and watching the news and films on TV. I like to keep up with world current affairs.

I love traveling and have been to many places . All over Europe, the Greek islands, Cyprus, Russia, Ukraine and in Florida/USA. But there is so much more to see and I am constantly looking for good deals.

No woman will ever change the fact that men are visual creatures. It simply will never happen. Some like them slender and some like their women to be on the large side.As for me, I prefer an average woman who enjoys her femininity. A lady who enjoys dressing up in a nice dress to go out dancing but can just as easily throw on a pair of jeans for a day at the seaside or an amusement park, will get my attention every time. A little makeup, a feminine hairstyle, a few curves in the right places and nice legs, are definitely my preference.

Awhile ago I started visiting various dating sites on the Internet and I placed my profile and a few adverts around to see what happens. For sometime now, I keep receiving several e-mails from women, mostly East Europeans and from a few other places.

Some of them get deleted straight away, because it is obvious that the sender does not speak any English and has used an on line translator with funny results. Some of them are from places, which I will never contemplate nor could afford to visit but a few are interesting and I reply.

Very soon I became aware that there are a lot of scammers out there, and you can spot them straight away because after your initial reply to them, you will start receiving, on a daily basis e-mails and of course a photo or two. The ladies in the photographs are very young, attractive and pose very provocative. Of course these photos were stolen from Model Agencies web sites. The pattern is the same and after a few soppy stories about their life and the plight of their family they change direction and tell you that they are in love with you? blah blah blah. What it makes it so obvious is the fact that they never reply to your questions or comments in you previous message.

Soon they will tell you that they would like to come and meet you but they can not afford to pay for their visas and tickets and that it will cost several hundreds of dollars. I read in a few sites that some gullible American men have sent money to them to get a visa and a ticket so they can visit them. A few arranged and went to meet them in their towns and cities and they are still waiting to be met at the airport??.

Myself, an old cynical person that I am, I did not fall for it, from the few that e-mailed me and soon I got rid of their irritating messages by asking them for their home telephone number.

As mentioned before I also received a few very interesting ones, which I replied and slowly got to know them a little. Soon I will start publishing some of them together with my replies, but now weekend is approaching and just managed to set up this blogg.